Sex Tech has have made great strides in the last 10 years – not just in terms of cultural acceptance and awareness, but also in terms of technology. Gone are the days of clunky, pink rabbit vibrators and plastic sex toys that feel like fake action figures. Today’s toys are designed by sex educators, medical professionals, and some of the world’s greatest sex experts. They feature premium, medical-grade silicone, robust Bluetooth connectivity, programmable vibration patterns, and multiple motors, all designed to give you a good time.
There’s never a bad time to invest in a little more self-care. These are the best sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal massagers and accessories, all of which we have personally tested. There is something here for everyone, every gender and every body. The language on these products is not always gender-specific, but we approached the testing with a gender-specific mindset and tested them on a variety of different genitalia, bodies and partners.
Be sure to check out our other bedroom guides, including the best vibrators, the best clitoral suction toys, the best lubricants, the best mattresses, and the best sound machines.
Updated May 2024: We added the Coconu Wave and Le Wand vibrators.
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Which toys are for my body?
The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but this is reductive and inaccurate, and contributes to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. It’s not helpful and I have a lot of feelings about it. We choose to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones – and there are Away more than just P and V.
The vulva is the outer part of the vagina. It includes the large labia, Labiathe urethra and the clitoris. The clitoris is the center of erogenous nerves in the vulva and is much larger than just the outer part. Its internal structures extend to either side of the vagina, where you will find the G-spot– the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
The phallus is what is commonly referred to as the shaft of the penis, and it includes some erogenous zones. The Acorn is the tip of the phallus, commonly referred to as the “head.” frenulum is a thin strip of connective tissue on the underside of the glans that can react particularly sensitively to targeted stimulation. Last but not least, this anus is, well…it’s the asshole. The Right is the internal part that is attached to the anus. Both areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimuli.
For people who were born with a phallus, there is an additional erogenous zone here: the prostate or P-spot. This is a walnut-sized gland located between the internal structures of the penis and rectum and can be accessed by toys that curve toward the front of your body.